I realize that when we’re at our lowest moments, we often act out of desperation. People might label it as “being a clown” or sarcastically say things like, “Desperation doesn’t look good on you.” While it may seem that way to others, deep inside, those actions come from a place of pain. We act on what we believe is best at the time, even if it later feels embarrassing, shameful, or like outright rejection.

Take, for instance, asking someone for clarity or a question and being ignored in return. That rejection stings, but their response or lack thereof is beyond our control. Still, I believe that rejection or being ignored is actually redirection to something better. Sure, it might bruise your ego, but it teaches you a valuable lesson and protects you from situations or people who aren’t aligned with your best interests. We don’t always see how the “behind the scenes” of life is working, but I truly believe it’s always in our favor.

Now, when you feel embarrassed and your ego is hurt, what can you do? Start with self-compassion. Imagine speaking to yourself as if you were a fragile child or a baby. You’d use the softest words and the most understanding tone. Yes, you made a mistake, and yes, the other person’s actions hurt you, but do you want their behavior to define your life forever? Likely not.

Instead, acknowledge that it’s okay to feel this way and embrace every part of yourself, the good and the broken. Treat yourself with care, comfort your hurt feelings, focus on what you can control, and commit to healing. By doing this, you validate your emotions while also working toward growth instead of suppressing your pain or feeling ashamed of who you are.

As for worries like “What if this ruins my reputation?” let them go and don’t manifest it because your thought is very powerful. What you focus on grows, so instead of dwelling on fear, focus on healing and moving forward. And honestly, there’s no set timeline for when you should feel better because everyone’s experiences are different. Would you ever give a deadline to a vulnerable child who is feeling sad? Most likely, you’d say, ‘Take your time to heal and process until it no longer hurts.’ Whatever happened was beyond your control, and all you can do is have faith that better things are coming.

Lots of love💋