It feels great to be back blogging. I’ve been busy with other projects and have had many adventures to share. However, The topic that truly touches my heart is the art of being alone, or as it’s called on TikTok, ‘date yourself.’ I used to struggle with solitude, believing that activities like going to the mall or dining alone were signs of poor social connections.
To be honest, I’ve always preferred establishing meaningful relationships over surrounding myself with many people with whom I lack a real connection. But I understand that time is essential for cultivating those relationships, and we can’t rush it as much as we’d like.
I prefer to surround myself with things that inspire and motivate me. I listened to my favorite YouTubers and podcasters, and they all suggested the same thing: take a solo date; it will transform your life. This idea initially bothered me since I had always considered that spending time alone in public was strange and lonely. Interestingly, I don’t have many friends overall, which stems from my desire for genuine connections. After all, not everyone you meet instantly becomes a close friend. So I truly had nothing to lose by attempting solo dating.
It turns out that I enjoy it. If you ask me if I enjoy every moment of it, the answer is no. There are moments when I feel lonely and wish I had a friend with me, and this makes me enjoy my friends’ companionship even more and even make collaboration. Nevertheless, I’m committed to continuing with solo dates. I believe there’s still much more for me to discover and understand. I’ve done it several times and it’s helping me expand my mindset. I’ve learned what I like and dislike through solo dating.
Spending time with myself in a luxurious restaurant, getting a manicure, eating at a famous café, shopping for luxury brands, and experiencing a variety of ice creams and Korean dishes has helped me identify the types of places I enjoy and the types of service that make me happy. I always assumed that spending time in luxury would make me feel lot better. However, I’ve spent a lot of time in luxury restaurants, and each one provides a distinct level of service. Despite the fact that it is their theme, some do not exude luxury to me. When it comes to service, it’s difficult because not all services can please everyone. Different people may have different ideas on what defines luxury.
I’m profoundly grateful for what my experiences have taught me. Life has greater implications than we initially realize. Choosing to create a beautiful life has not only cultivated a sense of abundance in me but also positively impacts others around me. I realized I had undiscovered potential. So, I strongly advise everyone to pursue their own path to discovering their abundance, and I am confident that your life will be transformed, and you will draw even more abundance into it.
